HOW TO HEAL FROM YOUR ADVERSITIES
Healing starts with awareness, understanding and accepting that healing isn’t linear, and more likely than not, takes a lot of inner work to overcome.
When you experience hurt, whether it be from the ending of a friendship, losing your job, experiencing failure, losing a loved one, letting someone down, or anything in between, it takes a lot of courage, resiliency, and inner strength to rebuild; to pick up pieces of your heart and put them back together. It can be really immobilizing and feel impossible to overcome at times. But I’ve noticed that more times than not, it doesn’t feel like we are healing when we actually are. So, if you find yourself today asking if it will ever get better – it does, and it will, get better.
Sometimes, we get so caught up the hurt, that we don’t realize that our heart is slowly healing itself and putting itself back together in the dark. There is always a light at the end of the tunnel, we just have to be willing to search through the darkness to find the light.
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A CERTAIN WAY
That it has to be done within a specific amount of time and have specific checkpoints along the way… but you can’t rush or force your healing… it has to happen on its own, and express itself in whatever way it needs to, for you to truly heal.
You can’t push yourself to be okay when you’re not ready, and you can’t push yourself to be okay if you haven’t come to terms with your experience or learned that you’ll persevere, despite what happened to you. You have to learn to heal on your own terms, and on your own timeline.
IT CAN BE EASY AT TIMES FOR US TO VILIFY THE HEALING PROCESS;
We feel guilty and ashamed of ourselves if we think we haven’t moved on quickly enough; become angered when we continue to be upset by our experience’s weeks, months and sometimes years later; or invalidate our healing all together and suppress our emotions to avoid feeling the grief; when, our hearts just need a little more time to heal. These are all normal experiences!
I want to remind you that healing isn’t linear. Some days will be better than others, and some days it will feel like the walls are caving in around you. But the goal to healing, isn’t to eliminate the hurt, it’s to find acceptance within the hurt. It’s about feeling it all, embracing it all, sitting with the discomfort just a little more each time it arises, and learning to accept that being human comes with suffering. Recognizing there is no yin without the yang, no light without the dark, no stepping into your brightest light without getting to know your shadow, and no happy times if you don’t let yourself feel the crappIness of life, which is completely uncomfortable, but is also so necessary.
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